Couples Therapy
No Longer Feeling The Love And Support You Once Shared With Your Partner?
Is your relationship suffering from communication issues, making it hard to express your worries to your partner without arguing? Are you or your partner struggling to recover from an affair or verbal/ emotional abuse? Is substance use negatively affecting the harmony in your marriage?
Perhaps you or your partner experience intense emotions and struggle to regulate them when triggered during conflict. Or maybe you are going through financial struggles, extended family conflict or differing value systems which have put a strain on the relationship.
You just want to go back to how things used to be. You want to restore the love, intimacy, and support you once felt with your partner.
The Honeymoon Phase Doesn’t Last Forever
Any relationship requires effort and commitment from both parties for them to thrive. Like tending to a garden, they need constant care and nurturing. Challenges are an inevitable part of any connection, and they often serve as tests of the relationship's strength and love.
You may be experiencing challenges that leave you or your partner feeling emotionally reactive, numb, stressed, less patient, and more confrontational. Maybe withdrawal, isolation, poor communication, lack of intimacy, difficulty seeing eye to eye or a loss of interest in hobbies or social activities have become more commonplace in your relationship.
The good news is that couples therapy can help bring you and your partner closer together while rebuilding the loving bond you both wish to have again.
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Couples Often Experience Difficulties
From small disagreements to more complex issues, relationships can be hard to maintain. Learning to navigate these issues with love, healthy communication, and patience can make all the difference. However, this isn’t easy. Having problems with your partner is more common than you may think— and so is seeking couples therapy.
The American Psychological Association states that Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) is roughly 75 percent effective, and studies included couples therapy for high-stress clients like veterans with PTSD, military couples, infertile couples and parents of chronically ill children. The results are also positive for various cultural groups (1)
Poor Communication Is Weaved Tightly Into Our Culture
Lack of proper communication plays a big role in relational challenges. Many people who seek couples therapy grew up in households where they never learned how to properly express their emotions or needs. It was either considered to be a sign of weakness (especially for males). Culturally, females have also learned to suppress certain negative emotions such as anger or frustration because it isn’t ladylike.
External stressors are also another factor influencing the quality of relationships. Having a very busy schedule or other work and financial issues often adds more pressure to a relationship. For instance, some couples simply lack the quality time that is necessary to maintain a healthy and happy bond.
Fortunately, couples therapy provides you with the opportunity to resolve these issues, providing you and your partner with viable solutions so you can meet each other’s needs.
Couples Therapy Can Help Strengthen The Bond You And Your Partner Share
Couples counselling will allow you to have a safe and supportive space to share, explore and reflect on your relationship history. Here, you can feel free to speak to your therapist about your expectations and goals for the relationship.
Couples will learn how to work through difficult situations while learning healthy ways of managing and communicating thoughts and emotions.
What To Expect During Couples Counselling
During sessions, we will help you and your partner understand what you are bringing to the table in the context of your relationship. We will help you build self-awareness about how your communication style or negative habits impact your relationship’s dynamics.
Through therapy, we aim to help you both become more aware and responsible for your words and actions. We will show you how to practice healthier communication styles and repair attachment issues to bring you closer together.
Couples Therapy — A Tailored Approach Toward A Fulfilling Relationship
Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) involves couples learning about attachment styles and relational patterns first. After this, you will be provided with tools to recognise when and how you become stuck in negative cycles. We will help guide you toward using more effective communication skills to take control of those moments so they don't repeat themselves.
EFT assists couples in the process of forgiveness and reconciliation. Through this modality, you will learn to accept each other's vulnerabilities and work toward rebuilding love, trust, and connection.
The Gottman Method in couples therapy incorporates an extensive assessment process to collect information about the relationship history and other areas, including communication, affect regulation, conflict management, and shared dreams or goals. Once your therapist has a better understanding of the relationship, you’ll be provided with structured in-session practices as well as homework to address your particular issues.
During sessions, your therapist will introduce you to various exercises, like love maps, stress reduction conversation exercises, and four horsemen—which focuses on communication and a conflict blueprint that identifies compromises, hard no’s, and what is negotiable for couples. Using this approach helps couples create a strong foundation of friendship and emotional connection, which leads to considerable improvement in the relationship.
Through couples therapy with Talk to Heal Counselling Services, you can experience significant improvements in your relationship, revitalizing harmony, intimacy, and the connection you may have thought was lost.
Perhaps You Are Considering Couples Therapy But Still Have Some Questions…
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Many people who seek out couples therapy are dealing with major relational challenges and might have already had thoughts or discussions about ending their relationship. Couples counselling is designed to meet you where you are in your relationship. Couples could be at various stages of their relationship and have different goals in mind. Regardless of where you’re at, your therapist will work with you and your partner to help you improve your connection.
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Therapy is a serious commitment as both parties have to face certain uncomfortable feelings or conversations that have been avoided for a long time. However, this commitment is necessary to see and feel improvements in the relationship. Having an experienced therapist present during these discussions can lead to positive shifts as this helps you stay regulated and work through painful past events that have damaged your trust or emotional bond as a couple. Even if uncomfortable conversations are hard, it will lead to better understanding and create a more fulfilling connection.
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Couples therapy is a dynamic process which means that your goals as a couple need to be revisited throughout your treatments. It is possible that these goals can change throughout your treatment for one or both of you. However, your therapist will be able to help you reset them and be there to support the process every step of the way.
Couples Therapy Can Help You And Your Partner Reconnect
If you are missing the love, commitment, and connection you and your partner once shared, couples therapy with Talk to Heal Counselling Services can provide you with the support and resources you need to fall in love all over again. For a free 15-minute consultation or to schedule an appointment with us, call (905) 418-2051.
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